It’s a tough thing to do when we have been hurt or wronged by someone… especially if it is someone that we love. But the fact is, as a believer we should not react to that person based on our feelings, but rather on God’s will. And where do we find out what God’s will is? In His Word and when He speaks to our heart with His peace that passes all understanding.
Sadly, most of us don’t stop and think about God’s will when someone has wronged or hurt us. We immediately start talking… talking to them… talking to others about them… trying to find some justification in how we feel about what they have done. This is definitely not the approach we need to take. We can be sure if we do things our way we will complicate them and make matters much worse than they are.
The truth is God tells us in James 3 that the tongue can get us into all kinds of trouble. It can do more destruction and damage than we can imagine. We use it when we are hurt to defend our actions, twist the meaning of what we are doing, and to actually hurt others as they have hurt us. Sounds close to the “golden rule” but it just drives home the point that we can use words to mean just about anything we want them to mean.
The moment we are confronted with hurt or wrongful actions, we need to go to God’s Word and ask Him to show us how to handle the situation. Our minds will be going a mile a minute on what WE are going to do but really that only brings confusion. Confusion is not from God, but from the enemy. Peace is from God and that is how you know if you are in His will.
So, the next time you have been hurt or wronged by someone, why don’t you try going to God first? Read His Word and seek His will on how the Word applies to your situation. Fall on your knees and ask Him to show you what to do. Keep your mouth shut and your ears open to what He wants you to do. He is faithful and will help you to choose to do His will instead of act on your feelings. He will answer you with His wonderful peace that transcends all understanding.